Parents and families deserve to be empowered with education, so that they can understand and solve their own problems. The knowledge of effective parenting does not reside only with “experts”.
Parents need to understand normal child development and the range of individual differences, and how our environment affects our behaviour. Parents need a wide range of effective discipline and behaviour management techniques, so that they will not resort to punitive methods out of ignorance and frustration.
Parents learn their parenting and family living skills in their family of origin. Education based solely on skills training is ineffective. Deep-rooted attitudes and patterns learned in childhood must be identified, challenged, and replaced with a new set of beliefs and attitudes, if parents are to make permanent changes in their approach to family living.
Philosophy on Family Life
Each person is a growing creature with unique potential, and deserves to be unconditionally loved, cherished, nurtured, esteemed, respected, and encouraged to develop to his or her full capacity. Parents can provide unconditional love and encouragement by allowing every child to develop at his or her own pace, and by appreciating each child’s uniqueness.
A healthy family is a place in which each member is loved and respected for who he or she is. As they grow, members are encouraged to take increasing responsibility for their own life decisions and the development and use of their unique gifts. Children’s moves toward independence are encouraged and appreciated, rather than regarded as insubordination. Roles and areas of authority are determined by individual gifts, maturity, experience, expertise, and interests rather than by gender or hierarchy.
The goals of effective parenting are the development of self-esteem, empathy, responsibility, and values, rather than obedience and conformity. Parents need to teach moral behaviour to their children through limit setting, example, and explicit teaching.