LIFE’s Parenting Book Recommendations

Further Reading

While The Parent Child Connection and Sidestepping the Power Struggle provide general parenting information, we wanted to put together a list of books which offer further reading on specific topics.The Best Parenting Books

Parenting Book - Unconditional Parenting Children the Challenge, Conflict Resolution BooksIn addition to these books by Alfie Kohn and Rudolf Dreikurs, many renowned books like these form most of the reference material behind the topics discussed in LIFE Seminars. They provide an excellent source for further reading on any given parenting topic.

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Here is our list of book references, arranged by topic:

Child Development

AMES, Louise B. & ILG, Frances – have a series of books for various ages

CAPLAN, Frank. The First Twelve Months of Life. Bantam Books (1978)
The Second Twelve Months of Life. Bantam (1982)

LEACH, Penelope. Your Baby and Child: From Birth to Age Five Dorling
Kindersley (2003)


BAYARD, R.T. How to Deal with Your Acting-up Teenager. Evans (1986)

SNYDERMAN, Nancy. Girl in the Mirror (Raising Teen Girls) Hyperion (2002)

Boys and Girls

AYERS, Lauren. Teenage Girls: A Parent’s Survival Manual. Crossroad (1994)

GURIAN, Michael. A Fine Young Man. (Raising Boys) Tarcher/Putnam (1998)

MACKOFF, Barbara. Growing a Girl. Dell (1996)


HICKLING, Meg. Speaking of Sex. Northstone (1996)

HINDMAN, Jan & NOVAK, Tom. A Very Touching Book. Alexandria Associates (1998)


CHESS, Stella & THOMAS, Alexander. Know Your Child. Basic Books (1987)

KURCINKA, Mary. Raising Your Spirited Child. Harper Perennial (1991)

MARTIN, Heather. A Parent’s Guide to Overcoming and Preventing Shyness
from Infancy to Adulthood. McGraw-Hill, 1981

TURECKI, Stanley. The Difficult Child. Bantam (2000)

ZIMBARDO, Philip. The Shy Child. Dolphin (1982)

Parent-Child Attachment

BOWLBY, John. A Secure Base: Parent-Child Attachment and Healthy Human
Development. Basic Books (1988)

KAREN, Robert. Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape
Our Capacity to Love. Oxford University Press (1994)


BRIGGS, Dorothy C. Your Child’s Self-Esteem Main Street (1975)

McKAY, Matthew, FANNING, Patrick. Self-Esteem New Harbinger Publications (2000)

MALLINGER, Allan E. & DeWYZE, Jeannette. Too Perfect: When Being in
Control Gets Out of Control. Fawcett Columbine (1992).

Healthy and Unhealthy Families

BRADSHAW, John. Bradshaw on the Family. HCI (1990)
Healing the Shame that Binds You. HCI (1998)

KHAVARI, Khalil & Sue. Creating a Successful Family. 1989

MILLER, Alice. The Drama of The Gifted Child. Basic Books (1996)
For Your Own Good. Farrar, Straus & Giroux (1990)
Thou Shalt Not Be Aware. Farrar, Straus & Giroux (1998)

MISSILDINE, W. Hugh. Your Inner Child Of The Past. Fireside (1991)

NORTHRUP, Christiane. Mother-Daughter Wisdom. Bantam (2005)

Boundaries in Families

CLOUD, Henry & TOWNSEND, John. Boundaries with Kids. Zondervan (1998)

KATHERINE, ANNE. Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin. Fireside (1993)

RICHO, David. How To Be An Adult. Paulist Press (1991)
How To Be An Adult in Relationships. Shambhala (2002)

LERNER, Harriet. The Dance of Anger. Harper (1997)
The Dance of Fear. Perennial (2005)
The Dance of Intimacy. Perennial (1990)

HALPERN, Howard M. Cutting Loose: An Adult’s Guide to Coming to Terms with your Parents. Fireside (1990)

PAUL, Jordan & Margaret. Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?
Hazelden (2002)
Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?
Berkley (1995)


GOTTMAN, John. Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child. Simon & Shuster (1998)

GREENSPAN, Stanley and Nancy. First Feelings: Milestones in the Emotional Development of Your Baby and Child from Birth to Age Four. Viking Penguin (1985)

GOLEMAN, Daniel. Emotional Intelligence. Bantam (1997)

LENCIONI, Patrick M., BRADBERRY, Travis & GREAVES, Jean. The Emotional
Intelligence Quick Book: Everything You Need to Know to Put Your EQ to Work. Fireside (2003)

McKAY, Matthew & FANNING, Patrick. When Anger Hurts Your Kids. New Harbinger Publications (1996)
McKAY, Matthew, ROGERS, Peter D. & McKAY, Judith. When Anger Hurts:
Quieting the Storm Within. New Harbinger (1989)

Children and Stress

HAZEN, Barbara Shook. Why Did Grandpa Die? Western Publishing Co. (1988)
(for children)

KERSEY, Katharine. Helping Your Child Handle Stress. Berkley (1986)

MONAHON, Cynthia. Children and Trauma: A Parent’s Guide to Helping
Children Heal. Lexington (1993).

SAUNDERS, Antoinette & REMSBERG, Bonnie. The Stress-Proof Child: How
To Recognize Symptoms of Stress in Your Child and What You Should Do About It. New American Library (1986).

Parent-Child Communication

COVEY, Stephen. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Free Press

FABER, Adele & MAZLISH, Elaine. How To Talk So Kids Will Listen &
Listen So Kids Will Talk. Harper Resource (1999)

GINOTT, Haim. Between Parent and Child. Three Rivers (2003)

GORDON, Thomas. Parent Effectiveness Training. Three Rivers (2003)

ROSENBERG, Marshall. Nonviolent Communication. Puddledancer (1999)

TANNEN, Deborah. That’s Not What I Meant: How Conversational Style Makes
or Breaks Relationships. Ballantine (1986)
You Just Don’t Understand: Men and Women in Conversation.
Ballantine (1990)


BETTELHEIM, Bruno. A Good Enough Parent. Knopf (1987)

COLOROSO, Barbara. Kids Are Worth It. Quill Press (1995)

CRARY, Elizabeth. Pick Up Your Socks. Parenting Press (1990)

DREIKURS, Rudolf. Children: The Challenge. Fitzhenry & Whiteside (1964)

Values and Empathy

DOSICK, Wayne D. Golden Rules: The Ten Ethical Values Parents Need to Teach Their Children. HarperCollins (1995)

UNELL, Barbara & WYCKOFF, Jerry. 20 Teachable Virtues: Practical Ways to
Pass on Lessons of Virtue. Berkley (1995)


BAYARD, Robert.T. How to Deal With Your Acting-up Teenager. Evans & Co
(1986) Repeat from Teen section

DODSON, Fitzhugh. How To Parent. (1978)

GREENE, Ross. The Explosive Child. Quill (2001)

LEMAN, Kevin. Making Children Mind, without Losing Yours. Revell (2000)

WYCKOFF, Jerry & UNELL, Barbara. Discipline without Shouting or Spanking. Meadowbrook (1984)